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HOW TO FIND A SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR

As you begin to investigate the world of Spiritual Direction and as you begin to look for the individual Spiritual Director that may be right for you, the following may be of assistance:

LOOK FOR WISDOM FROM WITHIN YOURSELF

 

As you begin to share about yourself with potential directors, awareness of self may be relevant and helpful.

  • What do you know about Spiritual Direction?  What have you heard and what questions about the practice do you have?  Is this something new for you?

  • What brings you to Spiritual Direction at this time in your life?  What are you aware of from within yourself that signals a desire or a need to move deeper in your spirituality?

  • What spiritual tradition or denomination would be the most comfortable for you?  Would you like to meet with a male or female?  What days and times are best for you?

LOOK FOR NAMES OF DIRECTORS FROM TRUSTWORTHY SOURCES 

 

Having a Spiritual Director is a very personal and private experience and it may seem quite difficult to know where to begin.  Here are a few ways to begin putting your list of possible directors together:

  • Search our San Diego Spiritual Direction Directory; also lists of other Spiritual Direction associations online.

  • Call local theology schools, training programs, and retreat centers and ask if they have a list of spiritual directors.

  • Ask any clergy you know and trust: ministers, chaplains, rabbis or other religious leaders.

  • Ask friends or acquaintances you may know who have experience with Spiritual Direction.

LOOK FOR ANSWERS & CONNECTION FROM THE DIRECTORS THEMSELVES 

We recommend that you interview several Spiritual Directors.  Knowing a little about each individual and having a few questions to ask will give you a good start as you speak with them.  Tell them about yourself and notice how comfortable you are with each individual; listen for how you are being lead in your selection process.  Ask the questions that will make you feel most comfortable.  While you may not ask all of these, possible questions might be:

  • What training in spiritual formation / direction / theological education do you have?

  • What education, tradition, religion, culture, spiritual beliefs contribute to the “type” of direction you practice?  

  • How would you describe the relationship in the companion relationship; how would you describe a direction session; how does your background influence these?

  • How long have you been a Spiritual Director?  What types of individuals do you most work with?

  • What is your own experience with Spiritual Direction; your own spiritual practice (prayer, meditation, contemplation etc.)?

  • How do you maintain continuing education and supervision for your Spiritual Direction ministry?

  • What types of Spiritual Direction organizations do you belong to?  

  • Place of meeting, fees, hours.

Compose the questions that you need to ask to confirm for yourself the connection and the competency you are looking for.  As an age old spiritual tradition, Spiritual Direction does not have any governmental licensing board to verify qualifications of spiritual directors. San Diego Spiritual Direction is not a certifying body, but rather a learning community that supports the Spiritual Directors of San Diego.